just endlessly tearing the mind open to see the beautiful shapes. three or four times... just slammed to a stop to say OH MY GOD and look at the words. describing what your writing is like, what it does, is hard to do without worrying about sounding hysterical.
It's okay to be a little hysterical. I embrace the hysteria. Besides Shibari is a careful precious contract. I always recommend people see the classic interpretations by the Japanese. They consider it art, like Geisha's. Aka Kinbaku. Been around since the Edo period. It's very fascinating to discover and less intense as western bdsm. This could have gone two ways. But I wanted to keep as much as the romance in it that I envy from the Japanese, it's more like a theatre and now it can even be used to reduce trauma. :)
it's the release . giving yourself up. i suppose it will be like meditation. I cant say i have much experience at all in it but like so many aspects of japanese culture it is very precise, measured and done for the pure art of that precision.
Yes which is why dommes end up getting so many c suite people. Having to be in total control all the time in capitalist society is exhausting. I agree it's much like mediation. I think for feminine genders/genderfluids it's that trust, how easy it would be to betray someone in that state, but with a trustful partner in the act, you can untense your body parts and just feel safe in a constrained state. You don't have to control anything. Or be anyone. You just have to exist as you are. And it's enough.
Yes, very true as a former SWer, it does help to write kink from experience and allow people to see the other side that isn't necessarily dramatized. In shibari safe spaces typically the person being wrapped has the control, same with domme/sub/dom/sub spaces. Many people think the dom/dommes have the control, but that's fairly amateur, more experienced kink spaces have an understanding that the subs have the control for their own safety & pleasure. Of course, in fiction it can be entirely subjective. I can't remember where my head is when I wrote it. I think I just wanted to convey the beauty of it. The symbiosis. I love your comment, it should be a blurb. So good.
I love biology. I wanted to study neurobiology to get into neurogenetics but alas I'm very bad at chem it's more the memorization of equations, hands on solid, I think it's just the tests that make me all cagey. I still have my microbiology book though, it's a treasure. I tend to use a lot of scientific words as metaphors for things throughout my stories. I think science needs more creativity overlap. I know with scifi that can be a thing but it can also be rather dry.
Yes, being a SWer was adventure, it can be very traumatic for others too. For me it was not that way. It was more like a door into the patriarchy, and seeing it more as this barren wasteland, that I was able to detach from but, there were some experiences that were very fascinating and pretty sex positive. I was a former domme so I provided safe spaces. Naturally, in the end I gravitated into neuroscience and psychology lots of biology overlap there.
I love all things regarding the brain, and yes I agree on animal behavior as well. Forensic psychology! I love it, lots of respect for that. I'm studying for clinical psychology (we'll see how the NIH fares if I can still dual in my field) with a focus on trauma psychology regarding cluster bs, I'm very much interested in the way cluster bs have come about and how little is studied, as well as how it connects to neurogenetics. The goal is dual in research & therapy, but if they cut too much funding cluster bs will probably not get studied, but I do pop in google scholarly from time to time to stay with it as I build my study, slowly. I already have the quantum statistics laid out how I would compare data, but I'm just following the science so I will tinker it as the years go on. I hope one day it happens if nothing else, I'll give it away to someone in a research facility.
(I am a bit biased that I believe at this point everything is neurobiological, but I do believe environment is also a portion as well. I would also like there to be more research in cluster bs as well to reduce the stigma which is one of the biggest problems I have inside of the community).
Yes, I noticed that hormone levels are some of the biggest issues, from my experience I hear it has to do with the PI, who is running the lab, how they're operating.
The why has always been a huge portion for me, and also why is this the only way? What about this way? And why aren't we applying it differently? Why aren't we incorporating lived experiences into applications for better treatment? These are some of the questions, I keep asking but, I know right now it's all very contentious all we can do is be strong and keep pushing for a better universe whatever that may be.
I've never had much of older women influences, but I was parentified rather young, which is why I fell fairly naturally in the domme setting because of my maternal instincts. It was a good chunk of self growth because in my youth it taught me boundary setting, understanding controls, and the ability to provide safety without judgment, and a focus on aftercare. I think some of us are naturals when it comes to this kind of play, it got pretty dangerous so, I eventually had to step away but, for the time and what it was it served me well and taught me of my own inner power, how to harness it, and show me how to develop healthier relationships with others by these boundary setting guides. It helped me understand other traumas and heal from them with conviction. I came from a religious background which was very black and white and anti women autonomy, in SW it demands your autonomy. You cannot be without it.
During the time I was studying forensic pathology(I am allergic to formaldehyde so it was a wash lol but I would have been great at it), so I already knew where all the major organs and no-no places were so it was easier to transition and teach younger dommes how to use their tools without harm. If there's safe spaces where people can go, I always support people who want to experience it. It's also important to have a community within it. Otherwise, it can be rather dangerous treading solo but it's not to say it can't be possible. I think having SWer communities within society can show different sides of the coin in the patriarchy. It would benefit growth in some circumstances, if nothing else show them another way of life provided it was a safe one. Not all spaces are safe, unfortunately. It's not a glamorized world, but it can be very cathartic if it's something that others enjoy where their autonomy can be honored, given the space is safe for it. One day, maybe that part of culture won't be burned at the stake. It's a long goal. All I can do is support SWers and former SWers who try to build up the community and make it safer for pleasure. 💜
This is a fantastic piece of atmospheric erotica. It's OK to comment on erotica, it's not weird. This seems like it's a thing around Substack.
Whatever, this piece is sexy as hell.
amen
Preach
Thank you 🥰
Very psychedelic and thought provoking! A great read.
just endlessly tearing the mind open to see the beautiful shapes. three or four times... just slammed to a stop to say OH MY GOD and look at the words. describing what your writing is like, what it does, is hard to do without worrying about sounding hysterical.
It's okay to be a little hysterical. I embrace the hysteria. Besides Shibari is a careful precious contract. I always recommend people see the classic interpretations by the Japanese. They consider it art, like Geisha's. Aka Kinbaku. Been around since the Edo period. It's very fascinating to discover and less intense as western bdsm. This could have gone two ways. But I wanted to keep as much as the romance in it that I envy from the Japanese, it's more like a theatre and now it can even be used to reduce trauma. :)
it's the release . giving yourself up. i suppose it will be like meditation. I cant say i have much experience at all in it but like so many aspects of japanese culture it is very precise, measured and done for the pure art of that precision.
Yes which is why dommes end up getting so many c suite people. Having to be in total control all the time in capitalist society is exhausting. I agree it's much like mediation. I think for feminine genders/genderfluids it's that trust, how easy it would be to betray someone in that state, but with a trustful partner in the act, you can untense your body parts and just feel safe in a constrained state. You don't have to control anything. Or be anyone. You just have to exist as you are. And it's enough.
Yes, very true as a former SWer, it does help to write kink from experience and allow people to see the other side that isn't necessarily dramatized. In shibari safe spaces typically the person being wrapped has the control, same with domme/sub/dom/sub spaces. Many people think the dom/dommes have the control, but that's fairly amateur, more experienced kink spaces have an understanding that the subs have the control for their own safety & pleasure. Of course, in fiction it can be entirely subjective. I can't remember where my head is when I wrote it. I think I just wanted to convey the beauty of it. The symbiosis. I love your comment, it should be a blurb. So good.
I love biology. I wanted to study neurobiology to get into neurogenetics but alas I'm very bad at chem it's more the memorization of equations, hands on solid, I think it's just the tests that make me all cagey. I still have my microbiology book though, it's a treasure. I tend to use a lot of scientific words as metaphors for things throughout my stories. I think science needs more creativity overlap. I know with scifi that can be a thing but it can also be rather dry.
Yes, being a SWer was adventure, it can be very traumatic for others too. For me it was not that way. It was more like a door into the patriarchy, and seeing it more as this barren wasteland, that I was able to detach from but, there were some experiences that were very fascinating and pretty sex positive. I was a former domme so I provided safe spaces. Naturally, in the end I gravitated into neuroscience and psychology lots of biology overlap there.
I love all things regarding the brain, and yes I agree on animal behavior as well. Forensic psychology! I love it, lots of respect for that. I'm studying for clinical psychology (we'll see how the NIH fares if I can still dual in my field) with a focus on trauma psychology regarding cluster bs, I'm very much interested in the way cluster bs have come about and how little is studied, as well as how it connects to neurogenetics. The goal is dual in research & therapy, but if they cut too much funding cluster bs will probably not get studied, but I do pop in google scholarly from time to time to stay with it as I build my study, slowly. I already have the quantum statistics laid out how I would compare data, but I'm just following the science so I will tinker it as the years go on. I hope one day it happens if nothing else, I'll give it away to someone in a research facility.
(I am a bit biased that I believe at this point everything is neurobiological, but I do believe environment is also a portion as well. I would also like there to be more research in cluster bs as well to reduce the stigma which is one of the biggest problems I have inside of the community).
Yes, I noticed that hormone levels are some of the biggest issues, from my experience I hear it has to do with the PI, who is running the lab, how they're operating.
The why has always been a huge portion for me, and also why is this the only way? What about this way? And why aren't we applying it differently? Why aren't we incorporating lived experiences into applications for better treatment? These are some of the questions, I keep asking but, I know right now it's all very contentious all we can do is be strong and keep pushing for a better universe whatever that may be.
I've never had much of older women influences, but I was parentified rather young, which is why I fell fairly naturally in the domme setting because of my maternal instincts. It was a good chunk of self growth because in my youth it taught me boundary setting, understanding controls, and the ability to provide safety without judgment, and a focus on aftercare. I think some of us are naturals when it comes to this kind of play, it got pretty dangerous so, I eventually had to step away but, for the time and what it was it served me well and taught me of my own inner power, how to harness it, and show me how to develop healthier relationships with others by these boundary setting guides. It helped me understand other traumas and heal from them with conviction. I came from a religious background which was very black and white and anti women autonomy, in SW it demands your autonomy. You cannot be without it.
During the time I was studying forensic pathology(I am allergic to formaldehyde so it was a wash lol but I would have been great at it), so I already knew where all the major organs and no-no places were so it was easier to transition and teach younger dommes how to use their tools without harm. If there's safe spaces where people can go, I always support people who want to experience it. It's also important to have a community within it. Otherwise, it can be rather dangerous treading solo but it's not to say it can't be possible. I think having SWer communities within society can show different sides of the coin in the patriarchy. It would benefit growth in some circumstances, if nothing else show them another way of life provided it was a safe one. Not all spaces are safe, unfortunately. It's not a glamorized world, but it can be very cathartic if it's something that others enjoy where their autonomy can be honored, given the space is safe for it. One day, maybe that part of culture won't be burned at the stake. It's a long goal. All I can do is support SWers and former SWers who try to build up the community and make it safer for pleasure. 💜